MENUNITED's Don Latham Talks New Developments and Tells Men How To Cope With The Stresses of Christmas!

donlatham-menunitied1.jpegDon Latham, the man behind the increasingly popular 'cringe free' men's breakfast with a Christian heartbeat that any man can enjoy - MENUNITED!... talks to us about new developments with MENUNITED, including the December event with speaker Neil Denny!.. How men feel at Christmas.. And gives men some great tips to diffuse those seasonal stresses!..

Read Don's entertaining 'Q&A's!..

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Please tell us the recent developments for MENUNITED?

MENUNITED continues to meet on the first Saturday of every month from 7.30 am to 9.00 am at the 'Slug and Lettuce.' We have 550 men on the email list and get between 80 - 160 men at the breakfasts. We have brilliant local, national and international speakers.menunitedONE

December 3rd will be our 44th breakfast and we have Neil Denny - a local solicitor and expert on conflict resolution - speaking on 'Breakthrough.' He is excellent. On January 7th we have John Wright of Norwich who has remarkable stories to share and will be ideal to help men recover from Christmas and get focussed in for the opportunities of 2012.

The relaxed informal format works well and provides an ideal opportunity to invite friends and work colleagues as guests. There is no prior booking required and no charge. Costs are met by voluntary donations on the day. There is a good sound and visual system (TV screens) throughout the bar.

Have you got new members on your team now?  

The event is organised by me and a team of a dozen younger men who look after mcmaster1publicity (emails, Jonathan Sherwin - publicity, Wayne McMaster - web site, Paul Skelton  - media consultant and Sam Holliday. The finance is looked after by Colin Goater. Richard Sexton will arrange mentoring. The Gideons supply free New Testaments, Ian Argyle and we have a brillant team who front up the event and arrange prayer ministry if required - Matt Wheeldon, Neil Denny, Grant Sheppherd and Graham Massey.

We are not planning a change in format for 2012 but we are looking for a real breakthrough in the lives of men. We want MENUNITED to be at the heart of revival in our City.

Do you have special plans for Menunited for Christmas? 

Many Christian ministries break for Christmas. We don't - but we have no special plans. We are simply looking for consistency and quality in our monthly events.

Looking at the Evangelical Alliance statistics on Christmas. January is cited as a peak in the year for divorce...  Is Christmas a time of 'pressure' for men?

Sadly Christmas has become a great retail experience and a real pressure on men can be meeting family expectations and the need to make funds available to fund the festive season. But this is probably nothing like the pressures that women divorce_8845experience in buying, preparing, and working to make things happen. Men need to be sensitive to these enormous pressures on their wives and should seek to share the workload in particular in dealing with relations and children. We have a family tradition that those who get do not put away!

What advice would you give to men; both married and single on surviving the stresses of Christmas?

Go away!! Seriously - simplify. As much a you can keep things simple. Simple decorations. Go back to basics. Make it a great family time.

What are good conflict resolution, stress coping strategies for men/family at Christmas?

Hide in the study!  Don't eat or drink too much. Go to a really good traditional Christmas Service. It is joy to the world. Get exercise. Help with the work in the house/kichen. Play board games with the children. Do a large Christmas jigsaw puzzle. Read a good book and don't watch too much TV. Avoid controversial conversations and don't raise past problems. Remember the good times and celebrate all the good things in life. Give to those who are not so fortunate and if possible include the lonely in your Christmas.

What are the most common complaints you hear men saying re stress and Christmas?

At my age the main complaint is that it seems to come around every fortnight. My mother said it would. It has been said that life is like a toilet man-on-the-beach-21851280688357jAxtrole - 'the closer you get to the end the faster it goes round.' In my experience men tend to go silent and let their imaginations take over. We try to imagine we are on the beach having a barbecue and saying 'no worries' without a Christamas tree or Christmas Cracker to be seen anywhere. Then reality creeps in and the shock of having to make New Year resolutions. Including dealing with the outstanding jobs list. No wonder January is a difficult time for relationships.

Be positive. It is a great time to say thank you and to keep in touch with old friends writing to them through the Christmas Card process. One of the few things I am better at than my wife! Men don't leave this to your wife.

If you have never been to MENUNITED make it a New Year resolution to give us a try. Sign up for an email www.menunited.info

Happy Christmas.

Don Latham

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